So this week featured a mini-drama with the toddler which led to the historic moment of our very first time-out chair session.
Despite the tears (both his and mine) I believe the ‘chair’ made its point. Since that episode, the time-out chair has remained unoccupied and the undesirable behaviour has not been repeated.
Hail the mighty power of the chair!
Saying that, I do think i is important though, to distinguish between actual wrongful behaviour or actions versus circumstances where a child is simply finding it challenging to cope with.
Some examples of these situations could include:
- Overtiredness or lack of sleep
- Hunger or low blood sugar
- Feeling overwhelmed in a strange or new situation
- A boo-boo or hurt
- Frustration at not being able to explain their need
In situations like this, I believe it’s best to first try and address the root issue, exercise a little more tenderness and empathy and try to do something to take the edge off.
Here are 5 things I’ve found to be effective in helping to bring calm to such difficult moments:
1. Get down to their level
Kneeling or lying down next to them, and whispering or speaking softly
Need I say more?
5. Lavender and rosemary calming spray
I found the idea here and really like it – so far my toddler has been more interested in the spray bottle rather than the actual effect of the spray itself… but I suppose it did sort of work as a distraction in that way