Saturday, August 23, 2008

Breakfast ramblings

This morning hubby had to go in for work, so after a good-bye kiss I was left alone with my own thoughts.

For some reason, my mind started wandering back in time to when I was a teen, having great times with my dear friends in our church youth group.

As I sit here munching on my breakfast cheerios and milk, I am reminiscing over the little dramas and crushes we four girls used to agonise over together. There is a very specific scene in my mind: Four girls in a car, driving on a winding road up a hill, to send one of us home after a particular youth activity... the two girls at the back were crouching forward, listening in earnest as one shared her BGR dilemma. We listened intently, shared advice, and we also prayed together. Haha... I thought it a very cute scene thinking back. But I believe we were probably extremely serious about it back then (as it should be!).

There was one particular girl in our group who was very very frequently the subject of crushes from the opposite gender. There was just something so sweet and wholesome about her that made her so attractive I suppose. In fact each of us was attractive in our own right, having very different personas to each other...

Warm, chirpy and chatty

Sweet, wholesome and simple

Vivacious and athletic

Serene and poised

I don't think the above descriptions do any of the girls justice actually. Each has a rich prism of aspects to our personalities. But the point I wanted to make was how vastly different we were from each other. Each of us had our share of attention from opposite gender. But back then I sometimes wondered whether this fair-complexion, sweet, simple personality was in fact almost every guy's ideal.

Of course now I know better. Back then our BGR encounters were probably largely based on these outward personas and impressions.

Win a Date with Tad Hamilton (2004)
Rosalee: I can't go with you Tad, because you don't love me, you maybe want to love me. But I think what you love right now is the idea of me. You can't love someone for what they stand for or seem to be. You have to love them for their details, for the little things that are true of them and only them.
So we got our hearts broken. Picked ourselves up. Moved on. Grew. Matured...
Win a Date with Tad Hamilton (2004)
Angelica: Well is it love, big love, or great love?
Pete: What do you mean?
Angelica: Well, love you get over in two months, big love you get over in two years, and great love, well great love... changes your life. So which one is it?

(Hmmm... I'm beginning to wonder if there is actually a point I'm trying to get at in this rambling)

Well I believe that I stand next to someone who doesn't just love me for a persona or any character I try to play... but simply just me! That was the thought that came to mind as I smiled at my dear man as he headed out the door for work this morning.

1 comment:

  1. Beautifully and cleverly written :) thanks dear


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